When my husband and I decided we wanted to start a family, we came to the decision after much consideration and careful planning. I had finished my massage degree and had a thriving practice. My husband had just been offered a new position and was looking forward to a short break in the transition. We were ready. Within just a few weeks of giving ourselves the green light, I was sending pictures of pregnancy tests to my sister to ask if it was possible to be “just a little bit pregnant” (answer: no, there’s no dipping your toe in the pregnancy deep end). And just like that, we started preparing for the next phase of our lives. We read all the books, took the childbirth classes, had the baby shower and were sure we were informed and armed with all the necessary skills.